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I become the eldest by marrying the eldest brother :p

Try to look a lil bit Gothic :p

On the way to Tambun, annual lebaran celebration

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Eid mubarak!

Talking about President-to-be

Finally, Mr. SBY followed my advice :p. He invited both president candidates for an ifthar in state palace, with hope that  both candidates would create such peace impression to calm their supporters in connected with the result calculation from KPU, July 22.

I had a chance to watch the event on TV, and the first thing I noticed was everybody looked so tense. Why? Wasn't it suppose to be a friendly event, they had to eat on the same table, how could they're not smiling to each other? I just couldn't believe my eyes. These people like nobody in the posters, who always smiled in their pictures with promising sentences this and that.

I think the greatest self control of a human being is his attitude towards people no matter how he feels. We are talking about our leaders to be, we expect nothing but the best from them, sometimes we forget that they are humans too like us, who constantly make mistakes, scared and confuse. But also just like us, they must not stop improving.

This is what I'm talking about. God knows human are full of mistakes, full of capacity to destroy things. But He also knows that only human that can repair the ruins, only human that can improve the quality of life. Quality of this world.

I can relate this to our nation right now. It's breaking my heart to see us divided into two different parties. I think we have lost our nature of respecting other people's choice, and we have started a war in social media, making fun of the candidate that we don't choose. A lot of smart people I know, also played with their witty words, some of the words were potentially provocative. Why? 

It's very easy to arrange a black campaign in Indonesia because we easily accept and pass the information, completed with our opinion, which sometimes, we realize or not, provocative or disrespectful to other person who happened to have a different opinion with us. Therefore we can easily found on the internet, a useless debate that absolutely clueless and sometimes dumb.

Why can't we just respect other people's choice? Why can't we stop judging a person from his political view? Why can't we just stop manipulating things and cheating only for our choice to win? Why can't we honor this democratic process and let the majority votes win? 

I'm sure there are tons of foreign interests are trying to shape this nation to be their object. We are great in natural resources, which they eager to exploit, we are great in human resources, which is potential for marketing their product. Why can't we now think as a nation who won't give a damn of what other countries think or plan, so we can start work for our own prosperity?

I personally will accept whoever candidate who win this election. Whoever becomes the president, people of Indonesia must work hard to feed ourselves from any resources that we have, we must stop depend on imports, we have to strengthen our identity as a nation who proud of its diversity, we must keep on watching the regulation and its officials not to take side on the wrong ones, we must learn how to kill corruption from the roots, we must learn to keep this country clean and guarantee everyone is safe, as long as he is not criminal. We have to be firm to criminals, but respect others' rights as long as it's not intimidating others as well. 

I think this country needs a vision, and we need to find our similarity to be able to love it and make it even stronger. 

May the chosen one able to take us to prosperity and glory. So help us, God. Amiiin....

Ramadhan 1435 H

Marhaban ya Ramadhan..

This holy month started with such news from my daughter, she finally reached her puberty. Today she got her period for the first time. You know how it feels to me?
yeah. My kid is growing up. I'm getting old.

She handled the situation quite calmly, while I thought she would be panicking like when I was having mine.
I think she's got enough information, thank goodness.

So, she couldn't fast today, and I spent all day long becoming sleeping beauty. In fact I didn't get up until 5 pm and had my ashr pray in a rush, and hurrily cooked fried banana and fried peuyeum.
Perhaps that mess hasn't messy enough, the gas had to be ran off while I was cooking. OMG.

However, everything finally finished just in time, Kyara finished making sweet teas and I finished putting the fried things on the table when the azan came. Then we're all having our ifthar together. Alhamdulillah.

fyuhh...what a first day to start Ramadhan :D

a Chance that missed

I cant believe it's almost mid of year again..it feels like its only yesterday I celebrate the changing year in Denpasar and now, it's already 4 months ago! Time surely flies but right now it uses jet power.

Right now I'm still laying on my bed, hoping that groceries would cooked by itself (yeah right) because I have a mood in writing and I have to sacrifice something in order to gain something. You know what I mean..

Last thursday night I had a chance to attend an event Quran recital with the orphanage in my friend's office. I've been planning to go there since like hundred years a go but it was last thursday when it finally happened. Actually I was assigned to go to Bandung for an HR meeting in the day after, and I have to go very early since the meeting was held on 8.00, but I have the urge to attend the Quran recital. 

It was 19.00 WIB when I got bbm from my friend who invited me there.

 

F: where are you?

M: still at office. What time the recital finish? I probably will get there by 19.30

F: 20.30

M: OK, I will go now, just wait for me, all right?

F: I'm reaching your office now. I'll pick you up.

M: well, thats surely a better plan for me :)

So I went with my friend in his car. Thank God I dont have to take public transport because I could save a lot of time by using his car.

When we got there half an hour later, his office was at 3rd floor and I had to catch my breath since I brought my 2,2 kg laptop with me not to mention the 70 kg of my body that certainly not a light through the stairsh :p

Everyone were singing barzanji and there were like 10 of them, 8 girls and 2 boys, all dressed in purple. I also saw 8 adults, 3 toddlers and  2 babies. It all if I wasnt mistaken hehe.

I was greeted by my friend's mother, his brother and sister in law, his employees and the Ustadz.

I wasnt quite familiar with this barzanji thing, in fact my dad has once stated it as bid'ah, since Rasulullah never taught us this. Actually Rasul had never taught reciting Quran together as well, or known as yasinan, but at that time I just wanted to see the orphans, so I put aside all the facts.

After the barzanji, came tausiyah. But first, welcoming speech from my friend's brother. And off course, my friend as the host afterwards. He introduced me as "someone who would read the kids fairy-tales". Well, ok, I can do that, I thought.

After that, we had dinner. I was forced to eat, but actually I had ate nasi padang given by my colleague for my meal of breaking the fast. So I had full tummy. I just carried a 5 months baby whose father died because of motorcycle accident with the container. A classic common story when you lived in Priok.

After the dinner, we took Isha pray together, and read the tawassul. It also something that my dad told me that it's something that has no correlation with sunnah. The ustadz shared us copies of paper with arab letters, and there was a picture of some habib or syech on it, and the ustadz suggested us to go the habib's grave in Bogor someday. My friend then said Tuesday will be great for ziarah and the kids were happy to hear that.

After that the event finished. Right at 20.30. However, my friend had a quiz time with the kids, and whoever could answer his questions shall get the prize. 

Not long after that he gave each orphans an envelope filled with money, and the kids were sent to their home by a pick up car. Actually its not that far, probably only 5 or 6 km away from my friend's office, and they liked it very much, so pick up it is for your ride, fellas! 

Now the place was empty because all the kids were sent home, my friend finally told me his intention of inviting me. Actually hes been inviting me from long time a go, as I said earlier, hundred years before, but tjis time he had something to tell me.

He offered me a job to handle the operation in his office, knowing that he has no competent person to handle the job when hes nit around. His office move in logistics, and theres a lot of admin works that no one could handle. So he proposed me to do the job.

However, Ive been working as HR and legal for years and I have no knowledge of logistics 

Works. And to receive such responsibility requires knowledge and experience. 

and I dont have such. :(

So I have to say no.

I know I have once wanted to work much closer from my house, and this refuse really made me awful, but I couldnt risk my friends business. I just hope he would understand.

The night had late, and I must go home because I needed rest, since I had arranged a travel to Bandung at 5.45 tomorrow morning.

I asked myself to go home, and he  was sorry he couldnt take me home because there was his business partner who had wait for him to discuss something.

At my ride to home, I couldnt stop thinking, what kind if opportunity I had missed. I just hope I didnt do anything wrong. 

I hope. 

Saturday

Today is Saturday. It's my laziest day of the week since I had decided, months a go, to never go out of house in Saturdays. The traffic just unbelievable.

Now, since I'm doing nothing today, not even coking, I'd like to update my blog. Start from the book I've read so far.
I've read 3 books, 2 of them are Pidi Baiq's, Drunken Master and At twitter, and another one is Coconut Principles. A motivational book by my PJID friend, Gede Manggala.

I now understand why Dinar, my best friend really love this Pidi Baiq guy. He's a kind of person who takes everything simple. Somehow it reminds me of my ex husband. I kind of pity him, I could never be able to hate him, the feeling like seeing him as disabled person, not totally his fault but he was built with the problem and he just couldn't get out of it. Pity  isn't it?
But don't assume he's like PB, PB is much much more than him :D

OK, about coconut principles, I got 2 of them and planned to put one of them in company's library.
It's a good book with lots of tips to make you more productive. Well at least the author expect that way :D

I plan to buy a book by Stroud, just found out that he had published his latest book, a creepy one, though. I forgot the title but I remember the cover :))

Maybe tomorrow, my daughter had also asked me to go to mall, just to check out what's in right now. I think she wants me to buy her some merchandise from the Frozen movie. Let's see tomorrow darling.

OK, gotta go, will write again as soon as I got time :)