Reality Relativity


Life according to me, is full of relativity. 

What is valuable to us, may be nothing to someone else. What is correct for us, may not be correct for others. That's why we tend to look for similarities with other people, just to find justification for our views, that we, no matter how strong we think we are, still need legitimacy for the decisions we make. 

On the basis of this relativity, wise people assume that we have no right to judge other people. That everyone has their own opinion and in the name of human rights, it needs to be respected. 
But how is it implemented? Can we really not judge other people? Meanwhile, when we meet someone, we have made assessments, and perhaps, prejudgment. So, no judgment theory is actually just empty talk. We may not provocatively judge someone, but we will start to decide whether we can be close to them or avoiding them. 

How complicated this discussion is for my simple brain. 

In fact, I just want to say, how uncomfortable it is to hang out with someone who doesn't have the same views, opinions or lifestyle. Just like me enjoying eating rendang, suddenly I bit a galangal. or when I was having fun enjoying the beautiful natural scenery at a tourist spot, then suddenly I was invited to go shopping. hehehe... Well, I'm not a shopper, so that's the example. 😁 Hopefully it's understandable. 

Recently I watched a video of a Facebook celebrity, on his page called "Nas Daily". He also raised the same theme. That every group that is close to each other, must experience a fusion of characteristics, attitudes and habits, which gives rise to similarities between them. 

For example, Nas, who is not a vegetarian, has been hanging out with friends who are vegetarian for some time, so he is now a vegetarian. His female friend, who is usually impulsive and easy going, received influence or transfer of traits from Nas so that now she is calmer and more focused in planning. 

So it's clear, friends can influence each other, and couples can even becomes more similar in appearance or behaviour.

Interesting, huh? 

Now try to check on your groups, and what similarities make your relationship still survive after all this time. 

Or maybe there is nothing in common at all, just a feeling of affection that makes you unable to leave or separate yourself. 

Because after all, love conquers everything...

 *coughing




edited, first posted January 2024

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